why let what others say about you dictate who you are? who are they to tell you who and what you are, and who you can be? other people are not you; therefore, they can't tell you who you are as a person. they can't tell you where you will be in the future.
once people realize you won't stoop to their level, they will start to tell others things about you that aren't true in order to make themselves better. they will warp someone else's view on you so that the other person will view you as they view you. that is how they can control some sort of aspect on how the world sees you.
they are also jealous. they see you succeeding in something, you being the bigger person, you moving forward with your life. and they realize they are stuck. they want to tear you down and bring you back to the same place they are; they don't want you to move forward with your life.
many a time when someone does this to me, I let it get to my head; I think about it and wonder if it's true. and in that moment, the person who speaks untrue and negative words about and against me has won. I have let that person get inside my head and I let him/her tear me down. and it is not fair. because I know it is not true. I know myself better, I know who I am. I need to stay true to myself.
sometimes it just feels really and truly difficult to see the good in yourself when those who have said in the past that they were there for you are now the ones who speak untrue and negative things against you.
you have to remember that those people are anger and hate and loathing all dressed up in a pretty package. it's not about you; it's about them. they want to feel superior for once over you. just once. and you have the power to either give them the key to that superiority or to keep them in the cold.
stick with the realest friends you have. because they won't tear you down, they will never speak untrue and negative words to you or about you to someone else. the realest group of friends you have will always support you and appreciate you as a person. they will value what you have to offer. they will comfort you in time of need and be your best cheerleaders at your highest point.
the best kind of friend isn't afraid to show you his/her real side, scars and all. (s)he knows that you are the same thing to him/her as (s)he is to you. because you and that person can accept each other. without jealousy, hatred, anger, and angst.
but, most of all, be true to yourself. know exactly who you are, be authentic, and don't be sorry. you know yourself best of all. you know who you are, what you are, and that's the biggest asset you have. because if you know that, you have power over yourself, and it'll be so much harder for others to take it from you.
#BeYou
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